Wednesday, 2 January 2013

Nepalese men concern: Voilence against women in Nepal

In Nepal and India, series  of incidents related to rape, sexual voilence, sexual harrassment, sexual abuses, etc are happening against women and girls. In relation to this, retried CEO in Nepal Telecom and Executive Chairman in Nepal Airlines CorporationMr Sugar Kansakar posted on his facebook writing, "Voilence against women is hot topic in Nepal & India at present. Many politicians here in Nepal spoke about need for stringent law to minimize these shameful crimes. Again it leads to politics. The last 601 membered parliament had highest number of lady MPs in country's history. It is a pity that they were busy with politics like rest of the MPs, and have no time for "trivial" issues like social reforms! Now, they are in street protests!!"

I commented saying, "While talking about the violence against girls and women it is worth to note this statement since our women and girls status in India and Nepal has been governed by religion and god: 

“The religious persecution of the ages has been done under what was claimed to be the command of God. I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do to their fellows, because it always coincides with their own desires.”
-Susan B. Anthony (1820-1906), a Prominent American Civil Rights Leader, Women's Right Activist and Women's Suffragist 

Irony, in India and Nepal, girls/women are born to be killed, murdered, raped, tortured, harassed, and to be victimized as evidences show since these two nations have one of the hightest cases of Female Genocide!! 
In these two nations, from womb (pathe ghar) to tomb (samsanghat) girls and women are vicitms because of their own Karma (intentional deeds and thoughts) I suppose. Because they are too much (unnecessarily) religious, blind devotees of gods/goddesses, don't think rationally and consider their husbands as a GOD. 

They have double standard because if they speak about their rights and feedom then they'll be beaten, scold, or their mouth will be shut up! Poor Nepalese women, can't speak about their FREEDOM and rights!! Thus, have to live in double standard lives. 
(Sorry for speaking the bitter reality) 

According to child abuse specialist Nicholas Groth described that there three types of rape, based on the goal of the rapist are as follow and based on this anyone can identify which type of rape are taking place in Nepal and India [1].

1. Anger rapist:
The aim of this rapist is to humiliate, debase, and hurt their victim; they express their contempt for their victim through physical violence and profane language. For these rapists, sex is a weapon to defile and degrade the victim, rape constitutes the ultimate expression of their anger. This rapist considers rape the ultimate offense they can commit against the victim.

Anger rape is characterized by physical brutality, much more physical force is used during the assault than would be necessary if the intent were simply to overpower the victim and achieve penetration. This type of offender attacks their victim by grabbing, striking and knocking the victim to the ground, beating them, tearing their clothes, and raping them.
The experience for the offender is one that is of conscious anger and rage.[1]

2. Power rapist:
For these rapists, rape becomes a way to compensate for their underlying feelings of inadequacy and feeds their issues of mastery, control, strength, authority and capability. The intent of the power rapist is to assert their competency. The power rapist relies upon verbal threats, intimidation with a weapon, and only uses the amount of force necessary to subdue the victim.

The power rapist tends to have fantasies about sexual conquests and rape. They may believe that even though the victim initially resists them, that once they overpower their victim, the victim will eventually enjoy the rape. The rapist needs to believe that the victim enjoyed what was done to them, and they may even ask the victim to meet them for a date later.

Because this is only a fantasy, the rapist does not feel reassured for long by either their own performance or the victim's response. The rapist feels that they must find another victim, convinced that this victim will be "the right one".
Hence, their offenses may become repetitive and compulsive. They may commit a series of rapes over a short period of time. This is the most common type of rapist in the United States.[2]

3. Sadistic rapist:
For these rapists, they have a sexual association with anger and power so that aggression and the infliction of pain itself is eroticized. For this rapist, sexual excitement is associated with the inflicting of pain upon his victim. The offender finds the intentional maltreatment of his victim intensely gratifying and takes pleasure in the victim's torment, anguish, distress, helplessness, and suffering;[3] the offender finds the victim's struggling an erotic experience.

Sadistic rape usually involves extensive, prolonged torture and restraint. Sometimes, it can take on ritualistic or other bizarre qualities. The rapist may use some type of instrument or foreign object to penetrate his/her victim. Sexual areas of the victim's body become a specific focus of injury or abuse.

The sadistic rapist's assaults are deliberate, calculated and preplanned. They will often wear a disguise or will blindfold their victims.[3] Prostitutes or other people whom they perceive to be "promiscuous" are often the sadistic rapist's targets. The victims of a sadistic rapist may not survive the attack. For some offenders, the ultimate satisfaction is gained from murdering the victim [1]. 

Source: 1. Center for Sex Offender Management Lecture Content & Teaching Notes Supervision of Sex Offenders in the Community: An Overview". Center for Sex Offender Management. Retrieved 2008-05-26.; 2. Types of Rapists from; 3. Groth, Nicholas (1979). Men Who Rape: The Psychology of the Offender. New York: Plenum Press. pp. 44–45. ISBN 0-306-40268-8.

Then Gautam Khanal, worked for Nepal Airlines said "Dear Respected Laxmi you have given too much hypothetical extremist view which is not cent percent correct referring to Susan B. Anthony. If Mr Susan is American do you know the history of America? when(in the past history) they brought Blacks(slaves) from African nations to America what brutal treats they treated (on the sea voyage and in America) with the you know?...not necessary to mention all those yourself, i prefer to advice you,go to the history of Americans. So Mr Anthony's personal view can't judge The Nepal and The India as well as citizens...... As Sugat sir stated above many female MPs too are entangled like other male MPs on the politics on other subjects except females' right. Why not those female MPs raise the voice in the favor of female as well as against male discrimination?.....Feminist who always raise theirs flag against "beauty- contest" saying that women body are not for display to male, why not they scold/advice those females who prefer to wear almost nude clothes on the public places in the name of Modernity/Females' Right/Freedom ? I would like to advice those modern/free women..please do not wear such naked clothes at least on public places. Do you know Dear Respected Laxmi such body display on public places produces sensation on Male's Mind/Brain..Because no one as well as feminist can ignore the nature's phenomena of attraction between male and female....Most of the feminists have doctrine,belief that male always sexually harassed /exploit to female but what i personally believe.. body display on public places exploit/harassed/discriminate etc mentally as well as psychologically to male figures."

I responded saying, "Dear Gautam ji appreciated your views. Anything done with good intention speaking about reality based on the facts and evidences to uplift the victim and deprived conditions always sound hypocrisy, hypothetic and extremist. If you think I'm going too much hypothetical extremist view then what do you think about the reasons of Women/Girls Genocide in India and Nepal. I'm talking about the facts, figures that are based on the available historical evidences. Those female MPs are just the PUPPETs ho and our so-called Feminists always would like to do the SHOW OFF kind of events and campaigns because donors Pour $ on such activities. Even if donors don't poor MONEY then such show off activities make them highlight without working hard to address the ROOT cause of the problems. I don't just blame to MALE only WOMEN are equally sexual arousal and I've met such women as well. Our MPs and Feminists or Women's Rights Activists hardly dare to speak about the ROOT cause of the GENDER BASED discrimination in Nepal and India because they don't want to challenge WHAT they've been told to do since the early childhoo. I'm also told to do the same "Not to voice and remain Quite" by my parents and brothers. My mindset has been shaped and govern my our Holy book and also just think rationally without being prejudice what we are worshipping in our society i.e. Shiva ji ko Penis (Linga) and Parbati ko Yoni. Then worshipping day-to-day sexual organs of man-made god/goddess what comes in general public minds except sex. It has proven fact that the average man thinks about sex 20 times a day or less, say researchers from Ohio State University, USA. I read a book "Sex and Power: Defining History, Shaping Societies" by an Indian author, Rita Benerji, who started the 50 Million Missing girls/women Online Campaign in 2006 to combat Genocide of girls/women in India. 

According to her book there are 5 chapters that include:

Part I-The Vedic Period: Sex as a Sacred Duty;

Part II-The Buddhist Period: Sex as a Prison;

Part III-The Golden Period: Sex as Salvation;

Part IV-The Colonial Period: Sex as Shame; and

Part V-The Democratic Period: A Sexual Paradox.

It is disgusting to know that since the ancient time Indian priests and sages taught males and women saying that "Day and night women must be kept in dependence by males (of their families), and, if they attach themselves to sexual enjoyments, they must be kept under one's control."- (Manu XI2); and "Every woman must be loyal, faithful. obedient honorable to her husband even if he is blind, deaf, dumb, old, physically handicapped, debauchel or, gambler and neglects his wife and lives with his concubine(s). If the husband is unhappy, it would be the fault of his wife. If he cries, she should cry. If he laughs she should laugh. She can only answer humbly to his question. She should not on her own put any question. She should eat only after her husband eats. If he is beating she should not react, but fall on his feet and beg him to pardon her, and kiss his hands and pacify him. If the husband dies she should burn herself to death on his funeral pyre and go along with him to the other world and serve him there in this manner."- (Padma Purana). Similarly, those sages had promoted sex writing a holy scriputure called "Kama Sutra". 

Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian Hindu text widely considered to be the standard work on human sexual behavior in Sanskrit literature written by Vātsyāyana. A portion of the work consists of practical advice on sexual intercourse. It is largely in prose, with many inserted anustubh poetry verses. "Kāma" which is one of the three goals of Hindu life, means sensual gratification or sexual desire, pleasure, sexual fulfillment, or eros, but can more broadly mean desire, wish, passion, longing, pleasure of the senses, the aesthetic enjoyment of life, affection, or love, without sexual connotations, and "sūtra" literally means a thread or line that holds things together, and more metaphorically refers to an aphorism (or line, rule, formula), or a collection of such aphorisms in the form of a manual. Read more:" 

Then again I posted another remarks saying him "Gautam ji now am understanding WHY we women and girls were told not to read the holy scriptures and had forbidden to read it. It is all because priests of ill minded with ill intentional like to keep us dependent with males. 

Here is the "Qualities Of A Chaste Woman & Duties Of The Wife"

For the wife in Vedic culture her duty is to create and maintain a very peaceful and happy family and home environment. In the Srimad Bhagavatam, Canto 7, Chapter 11, Verses 25 through 29 Narad Muni instructs Maharaj Yudisthira about the qualities of a chaste woman as well as her duties in Vedic culture.

Srimad Bhagavatam Canto 7: Chapter 11: Verses 25:

"To render service to the husband, to be always favorably disposed toward the husband, to be equally well disposed toward the husband’s relatives and friends, and to follow the vows of the husband—these are the four principles to be followed by women described as chaste." Srimad Bhagavatam Canto 7. Chapter 11. Verses 26-27:

"A chaste woman must dress nicely and decorate herself with golden ornaments for the pleasure of her husband. Always wearing clean and attractive garments, she should sweep and clean the household with water and other liquids so that the entire house is always pure and clean. She should collect the household paraphernalia and keep the house always aromatic with incense and flowers and must be ready to execute the desires of her husband. Being modest and truthful, controlling her senses, and speaking in sweet words, a chaste woman should engage in the service of her husband with love, according to time and circumstances.""

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