Thursday, 20 December 2012

Ego Vs Pride: Choice of word to express our feelings

I don't know whether we, educated youths and people are using the word correctly or not. 
Because generally we say, 
I am Proud to be ..................(citizen/nationality). 
I am Proud to be a ...............(religion).
I am Proud for.....................(other people achievement).
I am Proud to be a ............(caste/ethnicity)
Ego and pride are closely related concepts. 
Ego is born in mind whereas pride is born in heart.

Ego is unhealthy pride. Ego is a stumbling block in developing healthy relationships with others.
Pride leads to humility while ego leads to arrogance.
Ego is a feeling of being superior to others. It originates in mind and has often no relation with reality. Ego in simple terms can be referred to as I, ME, and Myself. A person who is all the time thinking about himself has a larger ego than a person who is concerned about others as well.
Pride is a feeling of satisfaction arising from what one has done or achieved. It is a sense of accomplishment that is healthy and good for a person and motivates him to be doing better all the time. A person who takes pride in the quality of his work is never satisfied with a below par performance and strives to do well all the time.
Ego acts like a hurdle when one tries to develop a positive relationship with another person. It also stops one from saying sorry to another person as ego gets hurt in the process. Ego is self intoxicating and you provide it nourishment every time you think of yourself as superior than others. A bloated or super sized ego is harmful for a person as he can never adjust with others thinking all the time about his superiority.
Ego is therefore an unhealthy pride that leads to arrogance. Pride on the other hand is a feeling of pleasure and joy. It is a sense of accomplishment that tends to bring humility in a person. You must have noticed how humble those who achieve everything in their field become. Ego gives one a swollen head while pride gives a swollen heart. A big head is always a problem as it gives big headaches whereas a big heart gives nothing but humility.
While ego is self admiration, pride is self satisfaction.

What is an EGO?
According to an Austrian neurologist, known as the founding father of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud (1856-1939), the ego is part of personality that mediates the demands of the id, the superego and reality. The ego prevents us from acting on our basic urges (created by the id), but also works to achieve a balance with our moral and idealistic standards (created by the superego). While the ego operates in both the preconscious and conscious, it's strong ties to the id means that it also operates in the unconscious.
The ego operates based on the reality principle, which works to satisfy the id's desires in a manner that is realistic and socially appropriate. For example, if a person cuts you off in traffic, the ego prevents you from chasing down the car and physically attacking the offending driver. The ego allows us to see that this response would be socially unacceptable, but it also allows us to know that there are other more appropriate means of venting our frustration.
"Anger is the enemy of non-violence and pride is a monster that swallows it up."
- Mahatma Gandhi 
What is a Pride? 
As per the Power Vs Force book by Dr David Hawkins there are different Level of Human Consciouness that ranges from Shame to Enlighment, scoring from 1 to 1000. According to him, Pride is at the Level of 175 out of 1000 which said: 
Level 175: Pride
The level of pride is something that most people aspire to. It’s socially encouraged. We’re told we should take pride in our work, accomplishments, and material objects. Compared to the lower levels, pride feels great. It certainly beats the depression and hopelessness found in Shame and Apathy. However, pride is still below the crucial level of 200. It is still weak, and thus is related to force rather than true power.
Pride is a weakness because it can so easily transform into any of the lower levels. If a prideful businessman suddenly loses all his money, he could easily go through Anger, Fear, and end up at Apathy, completely losing touch with what he based his life around. Pride comes from associating ones self with things that don’t really matter.
Although pride feels good at first, it is ultimately foolish. Religious wars are often a function of pride. It lacks the unification of the higher levels, instead being based on the egoistic need to be better than someone or something else.
When I search the meaning for EGO in Nepal I found that says, cxd, hLjfTdf
Meaning for PRIDE is 
3d08, uj{, z]vL, cledfg, cxdTofOF, zfg, /f]a, wfs, cfj, tds, t'h's, lbdfu, ddtf, udsfO, cxGtf, l6/L{, 6]s, dft, cledlt, cxd, t]h, d]v, dfbÙ -lqm=_ -sd{st[{ jfRo_ 3d08 lng

To sum up, knowing the real meaning of these two words neither it is good to say I'm proud to good nor to be an Egoistic for healthy personal growth and development because that hinder our FREE thoughts in seeing and analysing the situations in 360 degrees to move for the betterment of self and the world for humanity. 

Learn more from
2. What is an Ego? Accessed from
3. Power Vs Force: The levels of consciousness accessed from

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