आफूले सोचे र चाहे अनुसार देश वा समाज परिवर्तन गर्न परिवर्तन आफैबाट शुरु गर्नु पर्छ |

मलाई केहि ज्ञानी अनि बुझाकी दाजुभाईहरुले भन्नु हुन्छ,

"लक्ष्मी जी/दिदि हरेक मान्छेले तपाईले जस्तै सोच राख्ने भए हाम्रो देश र समाज कस्तो हुन्थियो होला ? सामाजिक सदभाव पनि खल्बलिने थिएन| एकले अर्कालाई गाली गर्न पनि पर्ने थिएन | हाम्रो प्रकृतिले सुन्दर नेपाल सामाजिक सदभावले पनि सुन्दर बन्ने थियो |"

हो म यो कुरालाई मान्दछु | मैले पनि यस्तै सोच्थे | 

तर मेरो सोचाई गलत रहेछ भनेर त्यति बेला मैले महशुस गरे जब मैले यो अन्ग्लिकन बिशोप (क्रिस्टन पादरी/ धर्म गुरु) को बेलायत स्थित वेस्टमिन्स्टर अब्बेयमा उसको चिहानमा लेखिएका निम्न उल्लेखित हरफहरु पद्ने मौका पाए |

"जब म युवा र स्वतन्त्र थिए, मेरो कल्पनाको कुनै सिमा थिएन | मैले संसार बदल्ने कल्पना गर्थे/ सपना देख्थे |

जब मेरो उमेर बड्दै गयो, म पनि ज्ञानी हुदै गए अनि मैले बुझे कि यो संसार परिवर्तन हुदैन भनेर | त्यसैले मैले केहि हदसम्म आफ्नो हेर्ने दृस्टीलाई साघुरो पर्दै गए र म मेरो देशलाई परिवर्तन गर्छु भनेर निर्णय गरे | तर त्यो पनि हलचल गर्ने छाटकाट देखिन |

जब म मेरो जिन्दगीको अन्तिम, अन्तिम अवस्थातिर पुगे र एक पटक अन्तिम प्रयत्न गर्नु पर्यो भनेर मैले मेरो घर परिवार, जो मेरो नजिकका छन् उनीहरुलाई परिवर्तन गर्नु पर्यो भनेर चेस्टा गरे | तर उनीहरु कसैलाई पनि परिवर्तन गर्न सकिन |

र जब अहिले म मेरो मृत्युको ओछयौनामा छु, मैले बल्ल महशुस गरे कि यदी मैले पहिले आफूलाई परिवर्तन गरेको भए मेरो उदाहरण देखेर सायद मैले मेरो घर परिवारलाई परिवर्तन गर्न सक्थे होला र मेरो घर परिवारको उत्प्रेणा र उत्साहले सायद मैले मेरो देशलाई केहि राम्रो बनाउन सक्थे होला |

र कसलाई के थाहा सायद मैले संसारलाई नै परिवर्तन गर्न सक्थे होला |"

यी हरफहरु पदी सके पछि मैले पनि गहन रुपमा सोचे र मनन गरे | साथै संसारले मान्दै आई रहेका केहि विद्वान र दार्सनिकहरुका भनाईहरुलाई पनि गहिरो अध्धयनका साथ नियाल्ने चेस्टा पनि गरे | सबै को भनाई उस्तै उस्तै पाए |

तत्पश्चात मात्र बल्ल मेरो गैटोमा घाम लाग्यो अनि आफ्नै सोच, विचार, र व्यहार परिवर्तन गर्ने चेस्टा गर्दैछु | यस दौडनमा मैले महशुस गरेको कुरा सबै भन्दा गाह्रो वा चुनौती के हो भने "नानी देखि लागेको बानि र सोचलाई परिवर्तन गर्न |"

Be aware with an Extremist and Fanatic for the sake of humanity and prosperity

BE AWARE with an Extremist and fanatic because they might be suffering from Obession (an idea or thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on a person's mind)

Anything extreme either too much or less is Danger for Humanity!!

If anyone indulged (too much attached) with any human creations, "ism" or ideological thought coined by certain person or members is DANGER like a VIRUS or ATOM BOMB, which destroy self and else because it blocks our way of thinking for the sake of humanity and prosperity of everyone.

It makes such ideological follower to think that "My Way is Highway and Yours are Shit" because that embeds (fix) in our subconscious mind.

That's why followers or believers can't accept and tolerate any constructive criticism for its improvement and ready to do and die anything for their such belief. They think that whatever is documented in their ideological books or scriptures 100 and 1000 years before are still valid and 100% corect and perfect even in modern 21st century's time and people's mind demand.
They can't think beyond that and fear to challenge their own thoughts/belief. They don't understand that there is nothing 100% and perfect in this world except in mathematics and statistics. We've to learn to understand that they might be suffering from an Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), an anxiety disorder characterized by recurrent and persistent thoughts and feelings and repetitive, ritualized behaviors.

They are against new thoughts and ideas and fearful to challenge their own mind and belief. They are agianst the law of mother nature because mother nature is always changing and moving forward. As per the law of nature everything in this universe is 50/50, Yin and Yang, Shiva and Shakti, Masculine and Feminine, Day and Night, and so forth. Therefore, we've to learn to balance our thoughts and way of thinking and doings if we consider ourselves that we are wise and intelligent human beings for the sake of humanity and prosperity.

Some of those "ism" are
- Racism
- Casteism
- Jingoism (fanatically patriotic)
- Nationalism
- Communism/Socialism
- Capitalism
- Maoism

- Leninsim
- Marxism
- Feminism
- Genderism
- Manuism
- Buddhism
- Hinduism
- Christianism
- Islamism
- Judaism
- Scientism
- Humanism
- Fanatism
- Terrorism
- Legalism
- Antheism
- Angnoism
- Skeptism
- Positivism
- Pessitivism
- Negativism
And list goes on.

Corruption is in we, Nepalese vein and brain

As per the Corruption Perception Index according to the Transparency International, Nepal is ranked 154th out of 186 countries with a score of 2.2. It was ranked 146th last year . The notable point is, it has gain one of the highest Bribery case in bureaucracy after the restoration of Democracy in 1990. 

I feel proud to be the corrupt nation corrupt minded literate person because everyone of us Nepal land people will be known in an international arena as one of the most corrupt nation's citizen. 

Possible solutions: 
1. Need to wash Brain or Drain Brain and Blood from vein and head and refill with rational new ideas and thoughts. 

2. Enforce Law and Order strickly!!

Protect yourself from Sociopaths: Learn to recognize the traits—then stay away

According to the evidence there are 4% population in any given society are suffering from Sociopath (also called a psychopath).

Sociopathy is a complex personality disorder. Sociopaths exhibit a wide variety of maladaptive behavior which makes the condition difficult to diagnose. Sociopathy is not one trait; it is a syndrome—a cluster of related symptoms.

Psychologist, Dr. Robert Hare,  a researcher in the field of criminal psychology has spent over 35 years researching psychopathy and developed the scale/checklist to spot out such antisocial personality.

Dr. Robert Hare has identified key symptoms of psychopathy. Excerpts from his descriptions of the symptoms appear below.

If you’re dealing with a person who exhibits some of these traits, put your guard up. If that person shows many or all of these traits, get him or her out of your life.

Key Symptoms of Psychopaths:

1. Interpersonal traits

- Glib and superficial
- Egocentric and grandiose
- Lack of remorse or guilt
- Lack of empathy
- Deceitful and manipulative
- Shallow emotions
- Antisocial lifestyle

2. Impulsive
- Poor behavior controls
- Need for excitement
- Lack of responsibility
- Early behavior problems
- Adult antisocial behavior
- The complete picture

Psychopaths are often witty and articulate. They can be amusing and entertaining conversationalists, ready with a quick and clever comeback, and can tell unlikely but convincing stories that cast themselves in a good light. They can be very effective in presenting themselves well and are often very likable and charming.

Reference

1. Hare, R. 2011. Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us, Guilford Press.

2. http://www.lovefraud.com/beware-the-sociopath/key-symptoms/2/

My Question to all literate and educated people of Nepal and India ?

 Nothing is perfect in this world created by human being we've to learn to accept this fact first of all if we are progressive and evolving mind creature if we believe and think. 

In fact, we've to learn to understand that both Religion and Science are human mind creations and human mind is always evolving as per the time factor of this universe. We've to learn to think that whatever we think are right based on our understanding and leve of consciousness because it is our belief system that has been embedded in our deeper subconcious mind that creates reality. What I mean to say is we've to learn to be rational rather than blind followers of any ancient man creations becoming sentimental and emotional only for the sake of humanity. Religion is a theological aspect of study and it is a part of science. We must know that science is a knowledge and way of thinking. To think science is different thing is rudimentary thoughts and ideas. 

"Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind." as said by great mind of this world, Albert Einstein. Similarly, "Science can purify religion from error and superstition. Religion can purify science from idolatry and false absolutes." as said by great religious mind and leader, Pope John Paul II. 

We've to learn to understand that thoughts are things so to change the things from negative to positive first of all we've to learn to change our thoughts. In a day (24 hours) we've around 70,000 thoughts but mostly we don't know how to use it productively and effectively to make things happen in the ground reality.

To transform society first of all we've to learn to transform self and self transformation can only be done by changing our thoughts from negative to positive, irrational to rational and so forth. 

Our mind is shaped and control by our belief system therefore we've to make sure what kind of belief system is governing our mind!!

"Belief creates the actual fact. 

Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.

The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.

- William James (1842-1910), an American philosopher, psychologist, physician and the first educator to offer a psychology course in the United States 

Interesting to learn that there are over 21 formal world religions and belief systems.

My question to all my nearest and dearest Indian subcontinent basically Nepalese and Indian follow literate friends.

Isn't it time for Nepalese and Indian literate/educated people to think critically and ask the question

WHY out of  around 7.1 billion of the world population 1.1 billion people have no faith ?

Why they didn't follow the belief system what their ancestors used to follow and believe?

Are those who didn't follow their ancestors belief system are idiot, stupid and foolish and those who follow are intelligent and genius ?

Of the 1.1 billion people professing no faith, over 62% of them live in China alone and make up more than half of its population. Japan is the most unaffiliated country with 57% of its population with no link to any established faith. America closes out the top 3 with 16.4% of it’s population in disbelief.

As per the recent figures in the world there are

1. Christianity - 2.1 billion

2. Islam – 1.5 billion

3. Hinduism - 900 million

4. Buddhism -376 million

5. Sikhism - 23 million

6. Juche -19 million

7. Judaism - 14 million

8. Bahaism - 7 million

9. Jainism – 4.2 million

10. Shintoism - 4 million

Source: http://americanlivewire.com/largest-religions/

Reason WHY mid-western and far-western regions are under developed compared to other regions ?

WHY far mid-western and far-western regions of Nepal are relatively under developed compared to other development regions of Nepal?

In my deeper analysis I realised that among the five different development regions of Nepal WHY compared to the eastern, central and western, mid-far and far western regions are backward despite having many Raja (Kings) and Maharaj in the past and also there are good numbers of literate/educated people in the far and mid-far western regions who are working in the government sector.

As a learned human that gives priority for humanity without any prejudice in my mind in fact, one of the major reasons in my deeper analysis is to do with the prevailing belief system where superstitious practices are still massively exist and deeply rooted in societal mindset. 

To change any society first of all we've to change ourselves in our mind. 

But mostly superstitious practices like Chaupaddi, Badi, Kamalari, Jhuma, Deuki, child marriage, casteism, gender-based discrimination, etc are more prevail in the far and mid-western region compared to the others. 

Therefore, we've to think about this factor (superstitious belief system) as well so that we can make our society to think rationally without making them feeling sad and bad for hurting their sentiment. In fact, no one can hurt anyone sentiment though for educated people if they can think about rationally as Jiddu Krishnamurti (1895-1986), an Indian speaker and writer on philosophical and spiritual subjects said:

Being hurt throughout life

"Take for instance the hurt that each human being suffers from childhood. One is hurt by one’s parents, psychologically; then hurt in school, in university, through comparison, through competition, through saying one must be first-class at this subject, and so on. Throughout life there is this constant process of being hurt. One knows this, and that all human beings are hurt, deeply, of which they may not be conscious, and that from this all forms of neurotic actions arise. That is all part of one’s consciousness—part hidden and part open awareness that one is hurt. Now, is it possible not to be hurt at all? Because the consequences of being hurt are the building of a wall around oneself, withdrawing in one’s relationship with others in order not to be hurt more. In that there is fear and a gradual isolation. Now, we are asking: Is it possible not only to be free of past hurts but also never to be hurt again?"

Self analyasis: Whether or not we are suffering from Fear (Fearism) or Neurosis and Psychosis ?

It is worth to do self analysis and self reflection to identify oneself whether or not we or our friends network circle people are suffering from fear, fearism or neurosis and psychosis that are related to our mental health and well-being.
FEAR and FEARISM have been occupied in our mindset some of the clever mind telling us,
If you don't believe in God and Religion You Go to Hell.
If you don't study You will be Failed!
If you don't obey Government rules and regulations You go to Jail!
If you don't follow political party You won't get jobs or opportunities.
These are very much applicable to Nepal only I suppose because I've heard even from Professors and Associate Professors of Tribhuvan University saying so while I was having conversations with them. I was amazed to hear such from such a high level scholars and academicians who lack confidence in themselves and don't trust self. It might be because of their own ignorance.

"Fear  doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind."
- Dale  Carnegie (1888-1955), an American writer, lecturer, and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

"All religion, my friend, is simply evolved out of fraud, fear, greed, imagination, and poetry."
- Edgar Allan Poe (1809-1849), an American author, poet, editor and literary critic

"Gripped by fear people go to sacred mountains, sacred groves, sacred trees and shrines."
- Buddha

"When the people fear the government, there is tyranny. When the government fears the people, there is liberty."
 - Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826), an American Founding Father, the principal author of the Declaration of Independence and the third President of the United States.

"People always fear change. People feared electricity when it was invented, didn't they? People feared coal, they feared gas-powered engines... There will always be ignorance, and ignorance leads to fear. But with time, people will come to accept their silicon masters."
- Bill Gates

"We fear to know the fearsome and unsavory aspects of ourselves, but we fear even more to know the godlike in ourselves."
- Abraham Maslow (1908-1970), an American psychologist, best known for creating Maslow's hierarchy of needs

"Fear is the passion of slaves."
  - Patrick Henry (1736-1799), an attorney, planter, politician and best known orator during the movement for independence in Virginia in the 1770s

"I don't believe in an afterlife, so I don't have to spend my whole life fearing hell, or fearing heaven even more. For whatever the tortures of hell, I think the boredom of heaven would be even worse."
- Isaac Asimov (1920-1992), an American author and professor of biochemistry at Boston University

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
 - Dale Carnegie (1888-1955), an American writer, lecturer, and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills


"Doubt is to certainty as neurosis is to psychosis. The neurotic is in doubt and has fears about persons and things; the psychotic has convictions and makes claims about them. In short, the neurotic has problems, the psychotic has solutions."
 - Thomas Stephen Szasz (1920-2012), a psychiatrist, author and professor emeritus of psychiatry at the State University of New York Upstate Medical University in Syracuse

Exploitative traditional religious practices to young Nepalese girls

Nepal being a multi-ethnics, multicultural, multilingual and multi-religious is a very religious country where 126 different caste/ethnicities traditions, rituals, customs, cultural values and norms have been set by religious beliefs. In relation to this there are many social injustice practices and problems that are unethical act of people which hinders societal growth and development include

1. Gender based discrimination and exploitation
- Girl trafficking
- Dowry system
- Chaupadi pratha
- Deuki system
- Jhuma pratha (tradition)
- Kamlari pratha

- Badi partha (tradition)- Witch craft practicing and exploitation

2. Caste based discrimination and injustice
- Untouchability and marginalisation

3. Child labor
4. Drug abuse5. Corruption

Despite having so many social problems in Nepal here I'm going to discuss about the religious practices that have been exploitation Nepalese young girls in the name of maintaining and preserving culture, custom and tradition in Nepalese society. The prevailing practice that generally one can find in Nepalese society is offering a young girl to gods and goddesses in hindu temples and buddhist monstaries. These include Deuki system in the far western region of Nepal among Hindu community, Jhuma tradition among Buddhist in mountain region of Nepal and Kumari tradition among Newar community in the Kathmandu valley. 

1. Deuki system

The Deuki system, similar to India’s notorious Devadasi or temple slave  and prostitution custom that has been outlawed in all of India in 1988 but still exist as shown in a 2004 report by the National Human Rights Commission of the Government of India, exists in far western Nepal where families “gift” a young daughter to a temple, abandoning her to a fate of poverty, exploitation and often enforced prostitution despite being abolished by the government of Nepal in 1990 considering the deoki practice as human trafficking and exploitation in the name of religion and culture. 

Deuki means to consecrate one's own or a poor family's newly born female child to god in order to fulfill a promise made earlier to gain religious merit [1]. Based on blind belief, the practice of deuki is to offer an innocent female child to the local temple to serve the god or goddess in order to gain a son, to cure a sickness, or to fulfill any other desires. This system has started by the  REIGN of King Nagi Malla of Doti district in the Far-western part of Nepal in the 17th century due to the Natural calamities, drought and cholera consumed his kingdom. Relief would come, the royal priests predicted, if he gave his daughter to the temple of Bhageshwor Mahadev. 
At present the center of this practice is located in Baitadi district's Melauli Devi temple. It is disheartening to know that despite these measures, the number of Deukis is increasing.  According to the UN report the number of deukis increased over 30,000 in 2010 compared to 17,000 in 1992 [2, 3, 4].

Bought from poor families for NPR 10,000 (U.S.$140) to NPR 100,000 ($1400), no one takes on the responsibility to care for these children offered to the temples [1]. 

The flesh trade of the deukis is on the rise. Misguided by their own selfishness, prominent locals spread the blind belief that sex with a deuki will give them religious merit.

Is some cases, it has been reported that the families of those who sell such deukis to the temples have sexually exploited them. 

Girls born from such copulations themselves are sold into deukis, while sons become religious healers.

2. Jhuma tradition

Jhuma is yet another disgraceful traditional practice in the name of religion generally in western  region of Nepal among Buddhist communities. As in the Deuki system, the second daughter of the second daughter of the family is offered to the god in the ghumba and the girl have to spend her remaining life in the care if the  ghumba [3, 4]. This is completely based on blind belief, it sanctions separating a daughter from her family and putting her in the service of a Buddhist monastery. 

No one knows exactly when the Jhuma culture actually started. But because of a hypothetical fear of committing a sin if one's daughter is not put into the service of a monastery, many young girls have been forced to serve from time immemorial.

Jhumas exist in the Buddhist districts of west Nepal like Manang and Mustang, but the custom is also practiced in Kathmandu itself.

Many from the Sherpa community are compelled to make girls into Jhumas, who can be found in monasteries on the western side of Swoyombhu.  These children are sent to the monastery before menses, with a shaved head and dressed in red ochre colored robes.

Though they are not cut off from education and care, their life to some extent resembles to that of the deukis.

It is believed that Poverty has led to the perpetuation of a religious practice—the Jhuma tradition—among Tamangs and Sherpas Buddhist communities of western Nepal.

“As land is scarce in the mountains, families with several children seek to prevent it from being split up,” says Uttam Niraula, executive director of the Society for Humanism Nepal (SOCH Nepal), a non- government organisation campaigning against superstition and paranormal practices. “While the eldest looked after the family, the one in the middle was sent off to become a monk or nun. This is the Jhuma tradition.” [4] 

Buddhists, too, are not ready to see the Jhuma tradition end.  “It will be a violation of our cultural rights,” says Ang Kaji Sherpa, general secretary of Nepal Federation of Indigenous Nationalities. “The government needs to consult the stakeholders and initiate social reforms first instead of trying to impose a law unilaterally.”  

3. Kumari tradition

The Kumari – Nepal’s famous Living Goddess – is the tradition of choosing a girl at pre-puberty, sometimes as young as three years old, as the guardian deity of the city and installing her in her own palace, away from her family. She does not go to school and is not allowed to walk outside. Her reign ends when she nears puberty and is replaced by another young girl.


SOCH Nepal worked with Nepal’s women, children and social welfare ministry to produce a draft law to prevent discrimination and violence in the name of social malpractices, many of which stem from religion, like Jhuma and two more celebrated traditions, the Kumari and Deuki [3].

 “All these customs violate a child’s rights and are clearly banned by Nepal’s Children’s Act of 1992,” says Niraula. “The Act says a child should not be separated from the parents, should be allowed to go to school and play and should not be dedicated to god. It specifically says that a child under 16 can’t be made to become a nun or monk. But the implementation is weak. The new act will have tougher deterrents.” [3].

































References
1.  Dahal, Isha, 2006. Deuki: A Stain on Nepalese Civilisation, Traditional custom misguided, exploitative accessed from  http://english.ohmynews.com/articleview/article_view.asp?menu=&no=278344&rel_no=1&back_url=

http://www.boddunan.com/articles/people-places/59-customs-and-culture/20614-deuki-religious-prostitution-in-nepal.html
2. http://www.barossa-region.org/Australia/Hindu-girls-for-sale-in-temples.html
3.  Sudeshna Sarkar, Sudeshna (2011), NEPAL: Religious Practices Oppress Women
accessed from  http://www.ipsnews.net/2011/07/nepal-religious-practices-oppress-women/
4. Dahal, Isha, 2006.  Old Traditions Die Hard in Nepal:, Jhuma: a disgraceful act committed in the name of religion accessed from http://english.ohmynews.com/articleview/article_view.asp?at_code=316127

http://www.ekantipur.com/2010/12/19/oped/tiny-hands-on-offer/326748/  
5.  

Why politicians need to be changed regularly ?

Recently in Australia 6 ministers resigned from their political career and previously also main leader of the Federal Parliamentary Australian Labor Party, Mark Latham (aged 52)  and also the 25th Prime Minister of Australia, John Howard (aged 73) resigned from his political career.

BUT

Wonder WHY in our part of the world, especially developing nations politicians never ever want to resign from their political career and make politics their profession.

If such love and attachment those politicians have then citizens/public have to think about changing unproductive coward of politicians considering them as diapers as Mark Twin (1835-1910) said

"Politicians are like baby diapers: they both need to be changed regularly for the same reason."

I said it because

"It only takes 20 years for a liberal to become a conservative without changing a single idea."

as said by Robert Anton Wilson (1932-2007), an American author, polymath, novelist, philosopher, psychologist, essayist, editor, playwright, poet, futurist and civil libertarian